Intimacy & Integrity

The need to show up authentically…

How wonderful it is to be alone. To hide away from the world and to gorge on our misanthropic thoughts by ourselves. And how scary it is to be seen, felt, and touched by another.

We keep people at arm’s length because we cannot stand to see a mirror into our own selves. We are not ready to embrace our shortcomings and be responsible enough to want to change them. Status quo is easy, change is hard. Breaking is easy, healing is hard. Alone is easy, partnerships are hard.

Relating to another intimately asks us to resolve parts of our many personalities and disguises. It asks us to heal the schisms, the cracks, and the fakeness that we project unto the world in order to fit in. It asks for our egos to rear its ugly head only to be tamed into surrender.

The ‘other’ in our lives, be it our spouse, friend, employee, housemate, sister is here to awaken you from your slumber. To gently (or not) show you where your blindspots are. Sometimes it is too much too soon. At times we are too comfortable defending our suffering that any suggestion is construed as an assault and an insult.

No man is an island. Just look at our actions. We seek out family, friends, social gatherings. But when it comes to baring your soul, to admitting your shame, failures, and shortcomings we close up. We fence ourselves in and put our walls up.

Intimacy touches the heart. Intimacy bares the soul. Intimacy allows our higher selves to meet each other in a plane of non judgement. Intimacy is a bond you will never forget. Intimacy is love that has been gently, painstakingly accessed and quietly rejoiced in.

May we meet ourselves first with open face, and open heart. When our inner world is clear of of self-hatred, self-judgement, shame, and unworthiness what you see mirrored back is all the wonderful qualities that you always were.

‘Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.’ -Rumi

So yes, love is solely an inside job. Be that bloom and attract the bees just by blooming radiantly.

I wish you a life full of wonder, exploration, and intimacy. And never ever having regret opening yourself up even for once. The rewards always outweighs the risk. After all, how else shall we live but through an open heart, and open face.